The Parent Pivot Podcast

Reinventing the Relationship with Our Adult Children

It was bound to happen sooner or later.  We simply can't avoid it.  Our kids grow up and become adults and soon we find ourselves in an "empty nest."  Now what?
For some couples, one can make the transition quickly and the other one struggles greatly.  
How can we approach this new season of life and really, the rest of our lives, and make it as enjoyable as possible?
On this edition of The Parent Pivot Podcast, Steve and Julia show us how we can reinvent our relationship with our adult children and become the partners our adult kids need.  Don't miss it!
 
Get a copy of Jim Burns book, "Finding Joy in the Empty Nest,"
Check out Jim's course on "Doing Life with Your Adult. Children."

Seasons Come and Seasons Go.

Pivoting is never easy to do no matter what you're pivoting from and to.  It takes intentionality, courage, stepping outside your normal mode of thinking, and seeing life from a different perspective.
Pivoting from parent to partner with your adult children is no different.
Ecclesiastes 3:1 says,
                       "There is a time for everything, and a season
                         for every activity under the heavens."
On this episode of The Parent Pivot Podcast, Steve and Julia remind us that sometimes pivoting can take longer that we think or want.  What do we do when it seems our adult children are "taking too long to ___________?" (fill in the blank). Make it a point to listen and get some encouragement for your pivot!

What to Do With Your Kids Stuff When They Move On

It happens to all of us at some time.  Our kids become adults.  Leave home.  Get married.  And all their stuff from childhood remains in our basements and garages.
What does that have to do with pivoting from parent to partner?
On this episode of The Parent Pivot podcast, we get an insight look at how Julia faced this recently and what this "emotional torture" taught her in her pivot to partner.

Inside Steve's Story as a "Type A" Parent

Are you considered a "Type A" personality?  Maybe you have some of these common characteristics.  You are:
outgoing
ambitious
rigidly organized
highly status-conscious
impatient
anxious
proactive
concerned with time management. 
On this episode of The Parent Pivot Podcast, Steve opens up to share his story of being a "Type A Parent" and how he has become aware of the impact it had on raising his kids.  Make it a point to hear how he made changes to pivot to being a healthy partner to his adult kids.  It's a story you won't want to miss.
To learn more about the Enneagram and take the test, click here.
Process your results by picking up a copy of "The Road Back to You" by  Ian Morgan Cron and Suzanne Stabile.

How Identity and Worth Ruin the Pivot from Parent to Partner

It's very subtle and it can go undetected for years and wreak havoc on your relationship(s) with your adult child(ren).  Becoming aware of it and the "why beneath the what" can propel you to a joy-filled life of being a healthy Partner.
On this episode of The Parent Pivot Podcast, Steve and Julia share their own story about how our identity and the worth we receive as "Mom and Dad" plays a foundational role in making a healthy pivot to being the kind of Partner our adult child(ren) need.  Make it a point not to miss this podcast!
 
For more about Jamie Winship and his ministry on identity, go to www.identityexchange.com
Listen to Jamie's story that will blow your heart wide open to understanding how God sees us: 
Part 1
Part 2
Part 3
Part 4

"What Do You Do When . . . ?": Steve & Julia Respond to a Loyal Listener's Situation

Like anything we do in life, there can be an "art and a science" to it.  Pivoting from Parent to Partner is no different.  
On today's episode of The Parent Pivot Podcast, Steve and Julia take the in-depth time to personally respond to a loyal listener who invited them into her pivot about her college grad daughter and some things that aren't quite turning out the way she thought they would. 
Steve and Julia provide some "art" AND "science" on making this pivot well from parent to parter.  Make it a point to download this episode and listen and refer back to it later.  

Tip #54: Put the Spotlight on You

"Put the Spotlight on Me?"  Wait.  What??!!  How does that help me pivot from a Parent to a Partner?
Easy. Parenting was all about teaching our kids and instructing them on how to live a responsible life.  PARTNERING is all about what is "caught, not taught."
On this episode of The Parent Pivot Podcast, Steve and Julia show us how shifting the spotlight to us and the changes we are personally going through creates healthier relationships with our adult child(ren).  Don't miss this one! (We say it all the time, but we really mean it!)
 
 

Having Hard Conversations with Your Adult Child

The pivot from Parent to Partner goes more smoothly when we "keep our mouths shut and the welcome mat out" - the main theme of Jim Burns' book and The Parent Pivot Podcast.
Okay - but what is the balance between keeping our mouths shut - and dealing with our own emotions and resentment that pops up with our adult kids?  
On today's podcast, Steve and Julia Cummings help you navigate what this looks like to help strengthen your communication and ultimately your relationship(s) with your adult child(ren).
 
Resources mentioned in today's podcast:
For a FREE copy of Jim Burns book, "Doing Life with Your Adult Children" or Randy Alcorn's book, "The Treasure Principle" - send your name and address to: parentpivotpodcast@gmail.com or text Steve at 714-742-9625.
Order a copy of "How We Love" by Milan and Kay Yerkovich here.
Get your free copy of Soul Words.
 

Being Generous to Our Adult Children: How Much is Too Much?

One dynamic that comes into play as we pivot from being a parent to a partner is: What is the balance between financially helping our adult child(ren) - and enabling them?  
Whether it's paying for college, a car, a down payment on a new home, or childcare for the grand babies, how much is too much?  Especially when you aren't seeing any grateful hearts and expectations begin to take over because, "Mom and Dad will cover it."
Can you relate?
On this edition of The Parent Pivot Podcast, Steve and Julia sort that tension out for us and provide wisdom to help you have the right conversation with your spouse about how generosity plays out for you with your adult child(ren).  Don't miss it!
For a free copy of "The Treasure Principle" by Randy Alcorn, text Steve at 714-742-9625 or email parentpivotpodcast@gmail.com
 

One Simple Step to Becoming a Better Partner in 2024

Starting a new year can often be overwhelming making a list of "resolutions" to improve your life - like, eating better, exercising, or paying off debt.  Where do you start?
When it comes to pivoting from parenting to partnering with your adult children, Steve and Julia believe you can start 2024 with ONE simple step.  Don't miss he next episode of The Parent Pivot Podcast!
Got a podcast topic you want Steve & Julia to talk about?  Text them at: 714-742-9625.