The Parent Pivot Podcast

Pivoting with Your In-Law Kids: Interview with Ashleigh Cummings

Your son or daughter has just gotten married, or is about to.  What does it look like to pivot from parent to partner with your new in-law kids?
On this episode of The Parent Pivot Podcast, Steve and Julia sit down with their daughter-in-law, Ashleigh Cummings, for a transparent and insightful interview from her perspective on marrying into a different family than the one she was raised in. 
You'll hear from her heart as she shares about what she needs from her in-laws, especially around having kids, and how we can become healthy partners for our adult in-law kids.  Don't miss this one! (I know we say that a LOT, but we really mean it this time!) 

Is Your Adult Child an HSP?

Pivoting well from parent to partner often times means taking a deeper look at things. 
On this episode of The Parent Pivot Podcast, Steve and Julia tell us first-hand about the highly sensitive person and what that looks like to help us pivot well to being a partner.  If your adult child is an HSP, and 20% of the population is, you won't want to miss this podcast.
Get a copy of "The Highly Sensitive Person" by Dr. Elaine Aron.

Reinventing the Relationship with Our Adult Children

It was bound to happen sooner or later.  We simply can't avoid it.  Our kids grow up and become adults and soon we find ourselves in an "empty nest."  Now what?
For some couples, one can make the transition quickly and the other one struggles greatly.  
How can we approach this new season of life and really, the rest of our lives, and make it as enjoyable as possible?
On this edition of The Parent Pivot Podcast, Steve and Julia show us how we can reinvent our relationship with our adult children and become the partners our adult kids need.  Don't miss it!
 
Get a copy of Jim Burns book, "Finding Joy in the Empty Nest,"
Check out Jim's course on "Doing Life with Your Adult. Children."

Seasons Come and Seasons Go.

Pivoting is never easy to do no matter what you're pivoting from and to.  It takes intentionality, courage, stepping outside your normal mode of thinking, and seeing life from a different perspective.
Pivoting from parent to partner with your adult children is no different.
Ecclesiastes 3:1 says,
                       "There is a time for everything, and a season
                         for every activity under the heavens."
On this episode of The Parent Pivot Podcast, Steve and Julia remind us that sometimes pivoting can take longer that we think or want.  What do we do when it seems our adult children are "taking too long to ___________?" (fill in the blank). Make it a point to listen and get some encouragement for your pivot!

What to Do With Your Kids Stuff When They Move On

It happens to all of us at some time.  Our kids become adults.  Leave home.  Get married.  And all their stuff from childhood remains in our basements and garages.
What does that have to do with pivoting from parent to partner?
On this episode of The Parent Pivot podcast, we get an insight look at how Julia faced this recently and what this "emotional torture" taught her in her pivot to partner.

Inside Steve's Story as a "Type A" Parent

Are you considered a "Type A" personality?  Maybe you have some of these common characteristics.  You are:
outgoing
ambitious
rigidly organized
highly status-conscious
impatient
anxious
proactive
concerned with time management. 
On this episode of The Parent Pivot Podcast, Steve opens up to share his story of being a "Type A Parent" and how he has become aware of the impact it had on raising his kids.  Make it a point to hear how he made changes to pivot to being a healthy partner to his adult kids.  It's a story you won't want to miss.
To learn more about the Enneagram and take the test, click here.
Process your results by picking up a copy of "The Road Back to You" by  Ian Morgan Cron and Suzanne Stabile.

How Identity and Worth Ruin the Pivot from Parent to Partner

It's very subtle and it can go undetected for years and wreak havoc on your relationship(s) with your adult child(ren).  Becoming aware of it and the "why beneath the what" can propel you to a joy-filled life of being a healthy Partner.
On this episode of The Parent Pivot Podcast, Steve and Julia share their own story about how our identity and the worth we receive as "Mom and Dad" plays a foundational role in making a healthy pivot to being the kind of Partner our adult child(ren) need.  Make it a point not to miss this podcast!
 
For more about Jamie Winship and his ministry on identity, go to www.identityexchange.com
Listen to Jamie's story that will blow your heart wide open to understanding how God sees us: 
Part 1
Part 2
Part 3
Part 4

"What Do You Do When . . . ?": Steve & Julia Respond to a Loyal Listener's Situation

Like anything we do in life, there can be an "art and a science" to it.  Pivoting from Parent to Partner is no different.  
On today's episode of The Parent Pivot Podcast, Steve and Julia take the in-depth time to personally respond to a loyal listener who invited them into her pivot about her college grad daughter and some things that aren't quite turning out the way she thought they would. 
Steve and Julia provide some "art" AND "science" on making this pivot well from parent to parter.  Make it a point to download this episode and listen and refer back to it later.  

Tip #54: Put the Spotlight on You

"Put the Spotlight on Me?"  Wait.  What??!!  How does that help me pivot from a Parent to a Partner?
Easy. Parenting was all about teaching our kids and instructing them on how to live a responsible life.  PARTNERING is all about what is "caught, not taught."
On this episode of The Parent Pivot Podcast, Steve and Julia show us how shifting the spotlight to us and the changes we are personally going through creates healthier relationships with our adult child(ren).  Don't miss this one! (We say it all the time, but we really mean it!)
 
 

Having Hard Conversations with Your Adult Child

The pivot from Parent to Partner goes more smoothly when we "keep our mouths shut and the welcome mat out" - the main theme of Jim Burns' book and The Parent Pivot Podcast.
Okay - but what is the balance between keeping our mouths shut - and dealing with our own emotions and resentment that pops up with our adult kids?  
On today's podcast, Steve and Julia Cummings help you navigate what this looks like to help strengthen your communication and ultimately your relationship(s) with your adult child(ren).
 
Resources mentioned in today's podcast:
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