The Parent Pivot Podcast
We are Steve and Julia Cummings and we are empty nesters who desire to maintain healthy relationship with our adult children. We have found that something needs to change in us, the parent, when our child becomes an adult. We need to ”pivot” from parenting, to partnering. What does that look like? When do I say something and when do I not? Why won’t they listen to me? We address these questions and host more in a real, raw an vulnerable way in real time. Tune in each week as we help you become a partner to your adult children. New podcast weblog
Episodes
Tuesday Feb 20, 2024
Tuesday Feb 20, 2024
Are you considered a "Type A" personality? Maybe you have some of these common characteristics. You are:
outgoing
ambitious
rigidly organized
highly status-conscious
impatient
anxious
proactive
concerned with time management.
On this episode of The Parent Pivot Podcast, Steve opens up to share his story of being a "Type A Parent" and how he has become aware of the impact it had on raising his kids. Make it a point to hear how he made changes to pivot to being a healthy partner to his adult kids. It's a story you won't want to miss.
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Tuesday Feb 13, 2024
Tuesday Feb 13, 2024
It's very subtle and it can go undetected for years and wreak havoc on your relationship(s) with your adult child(ren). Becoming aware of it and the "why beneath the what" can propel you to a joy-filled life of being a healthy Partner.
On this episode of The Parent Pivot Podcast, Steve and Julia share their own story about how our identity and the worth we receive as "Mom and Dad" plays a foundational role in making a healthy pivot to being the kind of Partner our adult child(ren) need. Make it a point not to miss this podcast!
For more about Jamie Winship and his ministry on identity, go to www.identityexchange.com
Listen to Jamie's story that will blow your heart wide open to understanding how God sees us:
Part 1
Part 2
Part 3
Part 4
Tuesday Feb 06, 2024
Tuesday Feb 06, 2024
Like anything we do in life, there can be an "art and a science" to it. Pivoting from Parent to Partner is no different.
On today's episode of The Parent Pivot Podcast, Steve and Julia take the in-depth time to personally respond to a loyal listener who invited them into her pivot about her college grad daughter and some things that aren't quite turning out the way she thought they would.
Steve and Julia provide some "art" AND "science" on making this pivot well from parent to parter. Make it a point to download this episode and listen and refer back to it later.
Tuesday Jan 30, 2024
Tuesday Jan 30, 2024
"Put the Spotlight on Me?" Wait. What??!! How does that help me pivot from a Parent to a Partner?
Easy. Parenting was all about teaching our kids and instructing them on how to live a responsible life. PARTNERING is all about what is "caught, not taught."
On this episode of The Parent Pivot Podcast, Steve and Julia show us how shifting the spotlight to us and the changes we are personally going through creates healthier relationships with our adult child(ren). Don't miss this one! (We say it all the time, but we really mean it!)
Tuesday Jan 23, 2024
Tuesday Jan 23, 2024
The pivot from Parent to Partner goes more smoothly when we "keep our mouths shut and the welcome mat out" - the main theme of Jim Burns' book and The Parent Pivot Podcast.
Okay - but what is the balance between keeping our mouths shut - and dealing with our own emotions and resentment that pops up with our adult kids?
On today's podcast, Steve and Julia Cummings help you navigate what this looks like to help strengthen your communication and ultimately your relationship(s) with your adult child(ren).
Resources mentioned in today's podcast:
For a FREE copy of Jim Burns book, "Doing Life with Your Adult Children" or Randy Alcorn's book, "The Treasure Principle" - send your name and address to: parentpivotpodcast@gmail.com or text Steve at 714-742-9625.
Order a copy of "How We Love" by Milan and Kay Yerkovich here.
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Tuesday Jan 16, 2024
Tuesday Jan 16, 2024
One dynamic that comes into play as we pivot from being a parent to a partner is: What is the balance between financially helping our adult child(ren) - and enabling them?
Whether it's paying for college, a car, a down payment on a new home, or childcare for the grand babies, how much is too much? Especially when you aren't seeing any grateful hearts and expectations begin to take over because, "Mom and Dad will cover it."
Can you relate?
On this edition of The Parent Pivot Podcast, Steve and Julia sort that tension out for us and provide wisdom to help you have the right conversation with your spouse about how generosity plays out for you with your adult child(ren). Don't miss it!
For a free copy of "The Treasure Principle" by Randy Alcorn, text Steve at 714-742-9625 or email parentpivotpodcast@gmail.com
Tuesday Jan 09, 2024
Tuesday Jan 09, 2024
Starting a new year can often be overwhelming making a list of "resolutions" to improve your life - like, eating better, exercising, or paying off debt. Where do you start?
When it comes to pivoting from parenting to partnering with your adult children, Steve and Julia believe you can start 2024 with ONE simple step. Don't miss he next episode of The Parent Pivot Podcast!
Got a podcast topic you want Steve & Julia to talk about? Text them at: 714-742-9625.
Tuesday Jan 02, 2024
Tuesday Jan 02, 2024
2023 is over and here comes another year. Are you ready? What's in store in 2024? (Oh wow! . . . that rhymes!)
Once again, coming at you in real time, Steve and Julia open the new year of The Parent Pivot Podcast with something they recently faced that caused them to look inward at themselves and how they are coming across to their adult children. You'll laugh a little, maybe not cry, but you'll definitely find their words of wisdom super helpful to your transition from parent to partner.
Show notes: To find out more about the "Dwell" app mentioned on today's podcast, click here.
Got a podcast topic you want Steve & Julia to talk about? Text them at: 714-742-9625.
Tuesday Dec 26, 2023
Tuesday Dec 26, 2023
In the Cummings' kitchen is a wooden plaque that says, "Simplify." We often get overwhelmed in life trying to balance, juggle, and learn new things. Don't you wish you could just simplify life more?
On today's Parent Pivot Podcast, Steve and Julia help us simplify how we can focus on a few things on the road to becoming a champion partner to our adult child(ren).
Get a copy of "How We Love" mentioned in today's podcast.
Take the Enneagram Test here and get a copy of "The Road Back to You" for understanding and insight.
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Tuesday Dec 19, 2023
Tuesday Dec 19, 2023
You've been there before. You're introduced to a group of people and you begin to feel a positive connection with one or two people - and soon you become fast friends.
What is it that caused that to happen?
On today's episode of The Parent Pivot Podcast, Steve and Julia show us how the "gravitational effect" can actually propel you to pivot much faster to a partner than anything else - and your adult children will love it!
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