The Parent Pivot Podcast

My Adult Child's Marriage is in Trouble: Now What?

Probably THE hardest thing a partner of an adult child faces is when their child goes through some sort of suffering.  It never changes because we never stop being Mom and Dad.  We all feel deeply it and our knee-jerk reaction is to:
Step in and fix it
Make the pain go away
And in the process - we make it worse.
SO - what are we supposed to do?  What is the healthy way to deal with our adult child who is struggling in their marriage?
On this edition of The Parent Pivot Podcast, Steve and Julia walk us tenderly through this subject offering grace, wisdom and compassion for you to lean into.
Resources mentioned on this podcast:
The Parent Pivot: 13 Principles for Building Stronger Relationships with Your Adult Children by Steve and Julia Cummings

Eggshells and Confidence: When the Ground is Shaky with Your Adult Child

Does it seem like your adult child ignores you, talks down to you, or treats you in a negative way somehow?  Maybe it even feels like you're walking on eggshells?
On this edition of The Parent Pivot Podcast, Steve and Julia provide some insightful wisdom on how we can navigate that path with confidence toward a healthier relationship with our adult kids.

One Adult Child and Some Unique Dynamics to Navigate

"One" is a song by American singer-songwriter Harry Nilsson that was made famous by Three Dog Night back in the 60's.
You may be parents who have one adult child and may not realize there are some unique dynamics that play into what your pivot looks like.
On today's Parent Pivot Podcast, Steve and Julia look at those dynamics after hearing from some adult children who are the only child in their family.

"One Choice Away from Change" - Interview with Justin and Trish Davis

We long for relationships to be joyful and life-giving, right? So why do they often leave us wounded, broken and exhausted?
If you're looking to break the cycles that hurt your relationships with your adult kids and hold you back - you won't want to miss this edition of The Parent Pivot Podcast. Steve and Julia sit down with Justin and Trisha Davis about their new book - "One Choice Away from Change."
Resources mentioned on this podcast:
1. "One Choice Away from Change" by Justin and Trisha Davis.
2. RefineUs Ministries

Gut Check Time with In-Law Relationships

You pour your heart and soul into raising your family. You kids grow up and become responsible adults and often times find their mate and get married.
That's what we want, right partners of adult kids?
Something that can suddenly impact and throw off your "Disney fairy-tale ending" often begins at the wedding. TWO families coming together and dynamics enter and things can change abruptly! THEN - the grandkids come and grandparenthood can quickly get sideways.
How do we handle relationships with our adult kids and grandkids when in-law relationships make it messy? That's today's topic that Steve and Julia address on The Parent Pivot Podcast.

"Know Thyself!"

Pivoting to healthy relationships with our adult children requires:
                   1. Diving
                   2. Reflection
                   3. Processing
Picture an iceberg. That's ALL we see in a person is what's above the surface. Unbeknownst to us is the other 90% brewing beneath the surface that stirs up our emotions and thoughts as we try to make sense of ANY situation or conversation.
On this episode of The Parent Pivot Podcast, Julia opens up about her core wound and openly shares how she recently was triggered by it and how she handled it.
It's an impacting conversation to help us interact with our adult children and forge more healthy relationships. Get your mirror ready, partners!

For Dads Only: How We Can Become the Hero with Our Adult Kids

Dads: What if you were told that "doing" LESS as a father when your kids turn 20, would actually raise your stock (i.e. respect) i their eyes? Would you listen?
It certainly goes against the grain of what we have been taught, shown and modeled in our culture - even the traditional church.
On this special edition of The Parent Pivot Podcast, Steve talks to dads straight from the heart and shares his own pain, struggle and anxiety trying to be a good father to his adult children.
If you're a dad of adult children, you don't want to miss this authentic and vulnerable look at how we can actually become the hero in their lives.
Mentioned on this podcast:
"Guardian Angel" by Skip Moen
"I'm Going to the Sidelines" PPP Interview with Jackson Cummings
Bringing Kingdom - Steve's men's ministry
The One-Minute Pause App by Wild at Heart
"Heart of a Warrior" by Michael Thompson
"King Me" by Michael Thompson
For a FREE copy of either of Michael Thompson's books, email Steve at: parentpivotpodcast@gmail.com

"We're Talking About Our Adult Kids . . . Again!": Interview with Author Gill Tillmann

Let's face it . . . not only is there NOT instructions handed to new parents by the doctor explaining "what to do" when you leave the hospital and take your baby home.
The same can also be said when your adult kids leave home. Where's the "partner manual"? Where do you go to find out how to make the pivot from parent to partner? We got you on this one!
On this edition of the Parent Pivot Podcast, Steve and Julia interview Gill Tillmann, author of the book, "Pour the Wine: We're Talking About Our Adult Children . . . Again".
Sit back, relax and pull up a chair and join us for this delightful conversation about "life after parenting."
Links:
https://www.instagram.com/fished.my.wish/?hl=en
Pour the Wine - book

When TikTok Goes Viral: Steve & Julia Address Issues Related to Cutoff Relationships

We recently posted some TikTok short videos on a variety of subjects to see what would stick to the wall. One particular issue touched home with over 11,000 hits! (Huge for us!)
Adult children and parents all chimed in with their hurt and pain seeking healthy answers to this question: "What do you do when relationship between parent and adult child is cutoff?"
On this edition of The Parent Pivot Podcast, Steve and Julia (Boomers), get some help from their Social Media Director (Millennial) and daughter, Jamilyn - and respond with Truth, love, compassion and tough love to each question.
Resources mentioned on this podcast:
1. "Unoffendable" by Brant Hansen
2. One-Minute Pause App by Wild at Heart

Helicopter Mom Rehab 101

Your son or daughter is heading off to college - or currently in college - and you're finding it extremely hard to let go. It can be painful to not be needed as much as you used to. How do you make sense of this new season of life?
Steve and Julia have a few small steps you can begin to take down this new road and start to make "the pivot" from parent to partner.
Dads: This is for you, too! Join us for another edition of The Parent Pivot Podcast!